Act Naturally

Emotional neglect might not be the first example of trauma that springs to mind, but it is trauma nevertheless.

intuitive + somatic coaching

Overwhelming reactions that limit your capacity to move forwards include fight, flight, freeze, passivity or entirely shutting down; affecting you physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. Left unresolved, the impact can cycle through your entire life.

Your body remembers, and trauma of any kind reshapes you. Whether you’ve psychological or cellular memories of physical or emotional neglect, years of research has found that not being seen and heard, or having somewhere to go to feel safe, leaves you feeling devastated at any age, let alone if it happens in childhood when you’re still trying to find your place in the world. Maybe:

  • you feel like you don’t know who you are. You feel like an outsider or left behind. You hunger for identity and long to belong. You find yourself walking away, have difficulty connecting with or pursuing others who are unobtainable: often feeling trapped or leaping from the frying pan into the fire.

  • there’s so much you need and want but can’t see a way of getting there. You find it difficult to be present, and neglect or don’t take time for yourself.

  • you struggle with feelings of being flawed, of shame, unworthiness, sadness, of being unloved - or anger, overwhelm, defensiveness, being thwarted or criticised. You’d love to know why you feel triggered by certain words or situations and understand how to move past urges to freeze or run.

These lived experiences become embodied which means your body remembers and stores it. You can become disassociated from the very foundation of yourself resulting in physical symptoms and challenges. Your soul steps from it’s shadow when it’s held with love, empathy and understanding, and by bringing safe and transformative somatic awareness and holistic practices into traditional coaching frameworks, it honours your basic dignity increasing your ability to self-heal.

who is this for?

You may be adopted, been to boarding school, distanced from family, suffered in or out of your home, or bullied. You’re emotionally wounded and it’s affecting everything. Perhaps:

  • your life may feel rosy but you have unexplained reactions to events and feel triggered, not understanding why.

  • you can appear confident and articulate but on the inside you want to be liked.

  • you feel you can’t be yourself, wear a mask and try to please others.

  • you may wonder why you sabotage things when they’re going ok.

  • your mind won’t be quiet, you overthink, may overspend, find yourself over-clarifying, talking fast or inaudibly.

  • you frequently jump into the frying pan into the fire or are rooted to the spot.

You’ve tried to help yourself. Your drawer is likely to be groaning with free downloads, your shelves with books and your sofa with well-meaning friends but you still feel you’re going round in circles, not progressing or notice you’re feeling worse over time instead of better.

Life doesn’t wait and your missed opportunities are exacerbated.

Whilst the above strategies have their value, they don’t work for long because you’re ultimately left to do the work alone.

how this helps you

I use my intuitive abilities together with my professional credentials, evidence-based research, lived-personal experience and unrelenting empathy to help you to heal the patterns and wounds that inhibit your life. You will:

  • learn to centre yourself, create inner balance and calm your nervous energy.

  • strengthen your instincts and learn to trust yourself.

  • create space to breathe and enjoy a healthier life.

  • be seen and heard, valued and listened to and increase your sense of self worth.

  • detach from your old story and go from intensity to passion.

  • create choices and become realistic with a wider perspective and purpose.

what you can expect

By acknowledging the Trauma-Informed, GROW and Somatic Awareness coaching models, we firstly establish a safe and supportive environment of your choice that supports your emotional safety. Strategies can be put into place that include a plan for when coaching can stretch you, and to resource connections that may benefit you along the way. Together we will:

  • look at how your experience has shaped you, without re-traumatising, by using grounding and mindfulness techniques.

  • discuss your coping mechanisms, triggers or patterns you may be aware of, and identify your resiliency and resourcefulness whilst holding your goal in mind.

By using exercises, worksheets and a journal that help you pause and reflect, we recognise and build from where you’re currently at, working towards reclaiming your power by moving into a coaching framework that supports action toward your goal.

This program is fluid to honour individuality with a suggested timeframe of six months to allow for significant healing and sustainable transition.

In addition, Somatic body work and movement is of great benefit for your overall daily health and wellbeing. Please keep in touch to be notified as soon as this modality will be offered.

10% of this investment is donated to The Graeme Dingle Foundation who are an established New Zealand charity leading positive child and youth development for 5-18 year olds.

important to note

Mentoring and/or Coaching are not to be viewed as a replacement for professional medical (physical or psychological) care and are not for diagnostic or curing purposes. In some cases, I may suggest that it is in your best interests to seek additional or alternative help in the form of a specialised therapist or medical practitioner. Whilst mentoring, coaching and healing can work beneficially alongside other therapies, it is not intended to be the route to overcome major emotional or psychological distress or replace any form of treatment.